Is Social Media killing real life relationships?

In today’s technological age, it is very hard to distinguish between the real world and social media. The reason for this is that social media is so intrusive to our personal lives because we post everything that we are doing, thinking, wearing, eating etc. This is no human fault but rather relies on the easiness, readiness and accessibility of social media (hellobeautiful.com, 2017). This essay will explore the relationship between the real world and the digital space and will discuss the balance between the social and professional persona with regards to the film, The Circle.

Social media has allowed us to detach from the real, physical world and has allowed us to believe that the online world is the real world. We post what we are doing on a regular basis to keep our friends up-to-date with what we are doing so we can receive validation either from how many friends view our lives or how many interactions we receive. This is the exact thrill of social media that is so addictive to the millions of users across the world. Not only is this the detrimental to the formation of real life relationships, it also affects the image people have of us once we avail all of our personal information online (hellobeautiful.com, 2017).

According to Barons and Branscombe, (2009) people go through self-gratification meaning they want to be accepted by their peers and be liked. Social media plays into this need not only because it indulges our egos but because communication is also vital for human interaction.  The need for communication also feeds into the relationship between the online world and the digital world but what social media does it allow us to question the way in which we choose to communicate.

I believe that social media and the real world are not interlinked. What we portray on social media is merely a portion of our lives and we tend to display the best part of this life. For example, if you flirt with someone electronically and see them in person, it could tend to get awkward as you’ve presented a version of yourself that is not necessarily true.

In terms of social media and the professional space, I do believe that there should be a distinction between the two. Penny Sparrow is a perfect example of this. One cannot say what they want on social media without repercussions and if you are a professional and working employee, you need to be extra careful to ensure that what you say is not taken out of context. You need to ensure that you do not post hate speech or information that could be detrimental to your image and that of your brand.

In terms of the film, The Circle, Emma Watson’s character decided to post her whole life for all of her viewers. There was no distinction between her personal life and professional life and the thrill she received from this was addictive. In the end, she ended up losing out on real life relationships and not having the trust of her personal, real life connections. This speaks true to how social media impacts both your personal, social and online lives.

In conclusion, I do believe that we need to be more conscious of what we post online to ensure that we are still able to forge real life relationships. We need to be aware of what we post so that anything we say is not misconstrued and we can ensure that we are viewed as well-rounded individuals and not just online public figures.

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Free workshops, valuable knowledge

This year, the 18th edition of the Cape Town International Jazz Festival hosted amazing free workshops designed to upskill young entrepreneurs, musicians and learners regarding music, fashion and life in general.

The workshops which are free to the public and only require you to RSVP online to secure your seat are a wow! Imagine having panellists like Shado Twala share their secrets with you and for free? Imagine being taken into the world of music by actual musicians who get paid to do what they love for free? Imagine learning about the latest fashion trends for free? This is literally what happened during the last week of March for the workshops.

This year, the workshops were presented at the beautiful Cape Sun Hotel and the different workshops were music business, music technology, master classes and my favourite, the fashion workshop.

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If you were not there, you definitely missed out, this legit was an opportunity of a lifetime and I had the best time with my squad!

We hope to see you there next year. Be a part of #AfricasGrandestGathering

 

THE INTERNET… YAAAAAAS!

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Syd, Michael and the gang came all the way to Cape Town for the Cape Town International Jazz Festival and die hard indie hip hop/neo-soul RnB fans lost. their. minds. Myself included!

Imagine my excitement when I found out that I get to see and interact with them, live! In real time! No computer screen between us! Guys, I could not deal.

The band, famous for hits like “Special Affair” and “Dontcha” recently released their second album, Ego Death and I’ve died 1000 times listening to it (well not literally because here I am, writing this post LOL).

The way I am still fan girling. Thank you Jazz Fest, meeting my faves was kumnandi!

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Here, you can see The Internet live at the CTIJFTnD master classes… and also be jealous about how close I was to them wow!

“My jazz, your jazz, our jazz, whose jazz?”

The 18th edition of the Cape Town International Jazz Festival returned this year and as usual we were awarded with free things like workshops and the much anticipated Public Debate.

This year, the debate was entitled, “Whose Jazz is it anyway?” and wow, did it not fail to educate and entertain. The debate which focused on the decolonisation and transformation of music education and more specifically, jazz education at tertiary institutions stirred up a host of emotion within the debate attendees and at one point, we were discussing decolonisation in general.

What really stood out for me at the debate is that everyone who attended and asked questions did so in such an eloquent manner that not one individual felt attacked. It was the first time I experienced a discussion about race, education and learning in such a holistic and respectful manner.  I’m definitely attending the 2018 Public Debate! download

Look: Braless or nah?

So, thanks to the Kardashians and Rihanna, one of the biggest trends this summer is to rock the braless look. It’s pretty basic – you don’t wear a bra under your clothing but you do wear a whole host of confidence.

This trend is not only the go to of the most stylish celebs out there, but it also carries a deeper message. Just because society expects you to wear a bra, should you wear a bra?

My answer is: do you boo! If you feel you have enough confidence to rock the no bra trend, then do it! If you feel like you need a bra for your own sanity and for public decency reasons, then do that too.

The great thing about fashion is that it is something that is individually constructed and it is the way you introduce yourself to the world. Whatever you decide to wear, make sure it captures the essence of YOU.

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How old are you?

Hi guys!

Today, I write this post with a heavy heart. This is for two reasons. 1) The WiFi keeps disconnecting and 2) I’m turning 25 in two days time. Shock. Horror.

Although I am now what is considered to be on the wrong side of 20, I am pretty impressed that I have managed to stick it out for so many years. 25 is a new kind of age – it’s the recognize me age, the age where you start realizing different things happen for different reasons, the age where you can say you are an adult and people have no choice but to believe you 🙂

It is also a terrifying age – I am so close to 30 it scares me, I should be somewhat established in my career already, I should at least have a long term boyfriend blah blah blah you get it.

But here I am – A 1st year PR student (however this is not my first time studying. YES, I had to mention it, YES it matters, YES, I’m still old), single AF, using words like ‘lit’ and ‘bae’ and I’m not sure how exactly to pay taxes. This made me realize that we all grow and mature at our own rates and paces. Had I flourished straight out of high school, I would’ve been obnoxious and not the sassy, down-to-earth person I am right now. I’m glad my life has taken a detour and I’m glad that I am creating my own destiny and following my own path and living by my own rules.

It doesn’t matter how old you are, how young you are or how in denial you are. What matters most is that you do what is best for you and follow the path selected for you and if someone asks you how old you are, tell them the truth, embrace it and be proud of it!

PEACE fam.

Blogging 2.0

When it comes to blogging, I feel extremely intimidated. Is this an online diary, a display of all my best pictures or do I try and be funny and unapologetic? WHAT DO I DO?! I know… I am… I will… I can… No, I don’t know, but I present you with… words. And stuff.

Equipped with a fresh outlook and new found confidence, I have decided to embark on this journey again (because I tried and failed the first time. One could call me a sucker for punishment). I’m going to take you on a journey of my life. Street culture, Cape Town by night, my natural hair journey and randomness is what you can expect. I can’t promise nail-biting content, but I can promise honesty and a quirkiness that isn’t measurable by a long shot.

I hope you’re ready, because I’m not sure I am 🙂